The Signal and the Noise

“No matter how isolated you are and how lonely you feel, if you do your work truly and conscientiously, unknown friends will come and seek you.”

– Carl Jung

We’ve never had more ways to connect then we do today. We can reach anyone, anywhere in seconds.

 Ironically, it also feels like we’ve never been more isolated. A noisy world where everyone talks and few listen. Just queues of people waiting for their turn to speak.

The rebrand of Tribe.

 I grew up in a place when bonds were real because they took effort. They were forged by doing things together. Building, fixing, arguing. It was practice rooted in effort that formed communities. Shared activities bring people closer. It’s why we’re drawn to team sports or become invested in the workplace. They give us a sense of belonging.

Over the years, we’ve seen the rise in popularity of online tribalism. Bonds formed via algorithms. Connection is connection and we’re a species that has survived through cooperation. The problem isn’t where we find these connections but in the manner of how they’re formed. Common ground is no longer found in survival, hobbies or interests but in trends and social phenomena. When relationships are built on likes and shares, it’s no longer participation….it’s performance. Community becomes a show instead of a craft.

The online world is loud. An echo chamber trapped in an isolation tank. It rewards the alter ego you polish and feed until it becomes almost permanent. When you meet another, you greet them like an old friend. Quick, empty connections without trust or memory. Digital personas become so invested in the community's approval that they lose the flexibility to grow or change. The permanence of digital identity versus the fluidity of who you really are.

Online, every interaction is archived and becomes part of the persona's permanent record. The pressure to maintain consistency with your username blurs the lines between reality and fiction.

 @darkpoet87 talks shit on social media without consequence. Does it in real life…gets punched in the face and then stands there with a broken nose wondering why the block button didn’t work.

 You’re trapped by who you imagine yourself to be, not who you are. If you worship at the altar of the algorithm, you won’t have the stomach for the real.

 In the real world, identity can change. Your neighbour might be cold one day, and friendly the next. Time and closeness smooth things out. You’re measured by tangible metrics until your character is revealed. Social currency is calculated on face-to-face interactions. Nobody gives a shit about your meme that went viral or your witty thread on X. You are respected based on your usefulness and group contributions. There’s no block, mute or unfollow options. You either compromise and assimilate or physically relocate.

But people cling to screens because the old places for real connection are disappearing and the ones that remain are becoming as superficial as the ones online. The cost and pace of modern life means jobs eat evenings, moving becomes constant and in the end we’re too exhausted to care. The screen feels like that’s all that’s left creating a socially handicapped populous.

The Fix

“If you build it, they will come”

-Field of Dreams 

Jung’s truth still stands : Do the real work, and the right people will find us. It’s simple but requires something we’ve lost practice in.

Bravery.

We’ve got to put up the Bat symbol. Risk being ridiculed. Accept that part of this trek gets lonely and we’ll spend many nights alone with our thoughts.

 Real honest work doesn’t scream for attention. It has weight and pulls others toward it. But we have to stop feeding the mask. Create the conditions that allow for the kind of authentic work that eventually creates the deepest connections. Increase our signal to noise ratios by ignoring our inner “pick-me” voice desperate for attention.

Set a standard and be honest about failures by sharing the polished next to the mess.

Balance strategic network engagements with ones based on genuine interest and watch the two merge.

Accept and appreciate compliments instead of faking humbleness.

Embrace the paradox of sharing generously but never freely.

Be kind but firm. Respectful but unapologetic.

If we stay the course. If we pursue our work truly and conscientiously, we create invisible threads of connection that draw genuine allies. Authentic work acts as both a filter and a beacon. It repels those seeking superficial connections while attracting people who recognise and value the same qualities we demonstrate.

So do it.

Tend to your craft.

Write the line. Learn the skill. Build the thing.

 Even if it’s small. It’ll take time, but it’ll stick.

I know because I’m in the middle of mine.

And when people show up, they won’t come for the mask.

They’ll come for you.